11 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You’re A Workaholic With Anxiety
You don't know how to relax anymore or go out with friends. You convince yourself that you have to work on your days off, in order to be the best. You work day and night even on holidays and weekends. You don't know how to stop.
1. You have insomnia.
You find yourself falling asleep at your own desk because you can never get enough sleep during the night. It takes you forever to get to sleep because you are constantly replaying the work day over and over again.
2. You frequently have a couple drinks after work to calm down.
As soon as you get home from work, you pour yourself a glass of wine or pull out a can of beer. It is the only thing that soothes your nerves and tension that is always about what you didn’t do perfectly that day.
3. You isolate yourself from everyone.
You’ve stopped talking to your friends, your coworkers and your family. You put every ounce of energy into your work because you feel like it’s the only thing you’re good at it. Your work makes life worth living.
4. You dread meetings with your boss.
Whenever your boss schedules a group meeting or a on one on talk, you become a bundle of nerves. You even make yourself sick with worry of getting in trouble, or getting criticized. You do everything you can to avoid those meetings and even go as far as faking sick.
5. You’re constantly worried about being fired.
It’s all you can think about. Will that mistake cost me this job? What if they find out that I forgot to send that email? Whenever you are even a tiny bit critiqued, you brace yourself for hearing the words, ‘I need to let you go’. It’s one of your greatest fears.
6. You say ‘yes’ to everything.
You don’t know how to ‘no’ to new responsibilities and challenges. Even if you kill yourself doing all of the new projects, you think it’s better than saying no to your boss. In your head, work is more important than your mental health.
7. You view your coworkers as competition.
Your coworkers aren’t people you hang out with. They aren’t your friends. You don’t even want to acknowledge their existence. To you, they are your enemies because they take you from being the number one employee.
8. Even when you have done nothing wrong, you replay the day over and over again after you’re done with work.
You constantly and consistently replay the day over in your head. It can drive you crazy because you can’t help it. Your brain is wired this way and you can’t stop beating yourself up about that one thing you said, or that one tiny little mistake.
9. You work on weekends.
You don’t know how to relax anymore or go out with friends. You convince yourself that you have to work on your days off, in order to be the best. You work day and night even on holidays and weekends. You don’t know how to stop.
10. You hate going on vacation.
Vacation makes you more anxious than anything. You worry about what you’re missing. You worry about falling behind. You worry that someone will call you lazy or a fake. So, you’ve stopped going on vacations all together.
11. You cancel plans with others so you can make more room for work.
Even if it’s a date that you really want to go on, or a birthday party for your dearest friends, you choose work over them. that’s when you know, you have a problem.