10 Trademarks Of A Blow Job That Keeps Him Begging For More

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1. Make Him Wait For It

I have never met a guy who does not want a blow job. So that’s why I like to make him wait for it. When a guy gets really good head I’m convinced he actually has no recollection of what it felt like the last time he got really good head, so that’s why it will feel just like the first time to him every single time. When I get naughty, I like to make him wait for the BJ. We’ve had sex before so he knows it’s, er, coming, so I like to pay with him and have him play with me and kiss and all that before I get down to business. Take your head down to the area, blow on his cock, lick it all the way around but don’t put it in your mouth just yet. Don’t start the blow job until you are good and ready. Then, when he least expects it, take the whole thing in your mouth and let the fun begin. He will go bananas.

2. No Guy Wants A Half-Assed BJ

If you want your blow job to be top notch, you have to be enthusiastic about the thing. My girlfriend and I were talking the other day about the worst way guys go down on us, and we both agreed that “dart tongue” was the WORST. Ladies, you know what I mean: those guys who are so timid and too afraid to really get in there and go to town on you, preferring instead to just dart around your area like some kind of fucking lizard. Same goes for blow jobs: you have to be so excited to be down there — committed, enthusiastic, and engaged. Don’t suck his dick if you don’t feel like it.

3. When you Get Tired, Kiss Him

Maybe your guy will orgasm in 3 minutes or it might take him 30. If your man needs a little bit longer to pop his peach, coming up for a kiss when your lips get tired or when you lose stamina is a good way to keep the illusion of enthusiasm without actually getting bored down yonder. Don’t stop and ask him if he’s getting close, or when he’s going to finish, or slow down, or wuss out. Keep going! But keeping the motion going doesn’t always mean you’re sucking him the entire time. Come up for air when you need to.

4. Limit Your Hand Use

One of my ex’s never liked when I used my hands during a blow job, so he taught me how to do a “hands-free” blow job! Sometimes your hand becomes a crutch, especially when you’re getting tired, and in that case I mean your blow job is basically just a hand job with a mouth attached to it. When you’re not relying on your hands as much you have to get creative and work your lips and mouth muscles in different ways to make sure neither of you gets bored. A hands-free blow job is a challenging one. But will you accept the challenge?

5. Suck Him Your Way

A lot of my girlfriends tell me how much they hate giving head. They think it’s degrading and demeaning and, well, it is if you see it that way. But remember, every single time you suck a dick, you have his penis in your entire mouth. Who’s in control now? He’s the vulnerable one, not you. The more control you take over his pleasure, the better it will feel to him.

6. That Said, The Best Head Is About Cock Worship

But definitely not in the sense that you’re some inflatable doll he gets to toss around and treat the way he wants. If you don’t want your guy to put his hands on your head, make that clear to him. My point is, all guys love their cocks. They LOVE them. And they want you to love them. And they want you to show them just how much you love their cocks. In all honesty? That’s what a blow job is. It’s you using your mouth to show your man how much you freaking love his stick.

7. Be Sure He Knows You’re There

Is there anything worse than a guy getting a BJ who just sits there and does nothing? These guys should be denied all blow job privileges for all eternity. He should be touching you, interacting with you, letting you know that what you’re doing is really working for him. But he should also be tuned-in to your pleasure, too.

8. He Will Want You To Gag On It. Don’t.

That’s all there is to say about that.

9. A Quick Tip To Mime Deep Throating

Not everyone can or wants to deep throat, so the best compromise is to take his piece in as far as you want it to go while you keep your hand wrapped around the base. It gives the illusion of taking him all the way in without worrying about gagging!

10. Explore His Body With Your Hands

Rub his chest, rub his legs, massage his feet, play with his balls, look up at him and make sure he can see you. That way you’re stimulating his whole body, not just his piece.

But most of all remember to have fun! I know they call it a blow job, but remember to keep it fun or else what’s the point? If neither of you wants to be at the office, why bother clocking in? Thought Catalog Logo Mark


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