8 Lessons Women In Their Twenties Can Learn From ‘New Girl’

When you're in your twenties and thirties, you feel like you're supposed to have it all together. But it's normal to have absolutely no idea what you're doing.

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1. “When you care about somebody, you do what’s best for them even if it sucks for you.” Schmidt

When you love someone, you value their happiness as much as your own happiness. You would do anything to see them smile. Unfortunately, this means that sometimes you’re going to have to let the person you love go, even if it means you’re going to be miserable without them.

2. “I want passion. Even if it’s harder and hurts more.” Jess

You shouldn’t settle when it comes to love. You shouldn’t marry the first person you meet, simply because it’s the easiest path to walk down. You should hold out for real, strong, passionate love. It might take you a while to find, but you’re going to get there eventually.

3 “Do I regret it? Yes. Would I do it again? Probably.” — Nick

Looking back, there might be some decisions you regret. However, you didn’t know they were mistakes until now. You never could’ve guessed what would happen at the time. If you were in the same position again, you probably would’ve done the same thing, so you need to let those regrets go.

4. “Life sucks. Then it gets better. Then it sucks again. ” Nick

Life isn’t always going to be easy. Sometimes, you’re going to face failures. You’re going to deatl with unexpected losses. You’re going to be placed under shitty, unfortunate circumstances. However, one day, things are going to get better again. You’re going to laugh and smile and remember why it’s so great to be alive.

5. “Can we just take a minute to celebrate me?” — Schmidt

It’s not selfish to celebrate your accomplishments. You shouldn’t keep quiet about the great things you’ve done throughout life. You should be proud of yourself. You should let everyone know how far you’ve come.

6. “It’s a weird life, but it’s where I’m at right now.” — Nick

You might not like your life at the moment, but you need to accept it. You need to live in the present, deal with your problems instead of pretending they don’t exist, and look forward to a better future. Life can be unpredictable, but you have to roll with the punches as best as you can.

7. “I’m always the one who loves more. That’s my thing.” — Jess

You shouldn’t be the only one putting effort into a relationship. You shouldn’t feel like you’re doing all the work while your partner sits on the sidelines. You should break up with anyone who makes you feel like you’re hard to love. Wait for someone who gives as much as they take.

8. “I don’t know what I’m doing emotionally or, let’s be honest, sexually.” — Jessica 

When you’re in your twenties and thirties, you feel like you’re supposed to have it all together. But it’s normal to have absolutely no idea what you’re doing. Even though you might have friends who are already married with children, remember you’re not alone in your confusion. Everyone else is feeling as lost as you are, even if they’re not showing it publicly. Thought Catalog Logo Mark